life

Famous Quotes about life

1. Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too - Will Smith
2. Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. ― Oscar Wilde
3. “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” ― Mae West
4. Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment - Buddha
5. Life is a dream for the wise, a game for the fool, a comedy for the rich, a tragedy for the poor - Sholom Aleichem
6. If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of - Bruce Lee
7. Life is 10 percent what you make it, and 90 percent how you take it - Irving Berlin
8. Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever. ― Mahatma Gandhi
9. “The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.” ― Bob Marley

love

Famous Quotes about love

1. Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye. H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
2. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ― Dr. Seuss
3. A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love. Max Muller
4. “I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe
5. Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. Lucille Ball
6. “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” ― Lao Tzu

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poems on love and life == John Wilmot, Earl of Rochester. 1647–1680

Love and Life

ALL my past life is mine no more;
The flying hours are gone,
Like transitory dreams given o'er,
Whose images are kept in store
By memory alone.	5
The time that is to come is not;
How can it then be mine?
The present moment 's all my lot;
And that, as fast as it is got,
Phillis, is only thine.	10
Then talk not of inconstancy,
False hearts, and broken vows;
If I by miracle can be
This live-long minute true to thee,
'Tis all that Heaven allows.	15

love and life

Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

by Maria Popova

“The useless days will add up to something….These things are your becoming.”

When an anonymous advice columnist by the name of “Dear Sugar” introduced herself onThe Rumpus on March 11, 2010, she made her proposition clear: a “by-the-book common sense of Dear Abby and the earnest spiritual cheesiness of Cary Tennis and the butt-pluggy irreverence of Dan Savage and the closeted Upper East Side nymphomania of Miss Manners.” But in the two-some years that followed, she proceeded to deliver something tenfold punchier, more honest, more existentially profound than even such an intelligently irreverent promise could foretell. This week, all of Sugar’s no-bullshit, wholehearted wisdom on life’s trickiest contexts — sometimes the simplest, sometimes the most complex, always the most deeply human — is released in Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar (public library), along with several never-before-published columns, under Sugar’s real name: Cheryl Strayed.

The book is titled after Dear Sugar #64, which remains my own favorite by a long stretch and is, evidently, many other people’s. (Or, at least, the editor’s.) It’s exquisite in full, but this particular bit makes the heart tremble with raw heartness:

Your assumptions about the lives of others are in direct relation to your naïve pomposity. Many people you believe to be rich are not rich. Many people you think have it easy worked hard for what they got. Many people who seem to be gliding right along have suffered and are suffering. Many people who appear to you to be old and stupidly saddled down with kids and cars and houses were once every bit as hip and pompous as you.

When you meet a man in the doorway of a Mexican restaurant who later kisses you while explaining that this kiss doesn’t ‘mean anything’ because, much as he likes you, he is not interested in having a relationship with you or anyone right now, just laugh and kiss him back. Your daughter will have his sense of humor. Your son will have his eyes.

The useless days will add up to something. The shitty waitressing jobs. The hours writing in your journal. The long meandering walks. The hours reading poetry and story collections and novels and dead people’s diaries and wondering about sex and God and whether you should shave under your arms or not. These things are your becoming.

One Christmas at the very beginning of your twenties when your mother gives you a warm coat that she saved for months to buy, don’t look at her skeptically after she tells you she thought the coat was perfect for you. Don’t hold it up and say it’s longer than you like your coats to be and too puffy and possibly even too warm. Your mother will be dead by spring. That coat will be the last gift she gave you. You will regret the small thing you didn’t say for the rest of your life.

Say thank you.

In the introduction, Steve Almond, who once attempted to be Sugar before there was Sugar, captures precisely what makes Sugar Sugar:

The column that launched Sugar as a phenomenon was written in response to what would have been, for anyone else, a throwaway letter. Dear Sugar, wrote a presumably young man. WTF? WTF? WTF? I’m asking this question as it applies to everything every day. Cheryl’s reply began as follows:

Dear WTF,

My father’s father made me jack him off when I was three and four and five. I wasn’t good at it. My hands were too small and I couldn’t get the rhythm right and I didn’t understand what I was doing. I only knew I didn’t want to do it. Knew it made me feel miserable and anxious in a way so sickeningly particular that I can feel the same particular sickness rising this very minute in my throat.

It was an absolutely unprecedented moment. Advice columnists, after all, adhere to an unspoken code: focus on the letter writer, dispense all necessary bromides, make it all seem bearable. Disclosing your own sexual assault is not part of the code.

But Cheryl wasn’t just trying to shock some callow kid into greater compassion. She was announcing the nature of her mission as Sugar. Inexplicable sorrows await all of us. That was her essential point. Life isn’t some narcissistic game you play online. It all matters — every sin, every regret, every affliction. As proof, she offered an account of her own struggle to reckon with a cruelty she’s absorbed before she was old enough to even understand it. Ask better questions, sweet pea, she concluded. The fuck is your life. Answer it.

The release of Tiny Beautiful Things was in large part the reason for Sugar’s recent “coming out party,” in which she revealed her real identity as Cheryl — an event made all the more exciting by the inimitable Wendy MacNaughton (♥), who live-illustrated it:

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Amrita's kitchen: Chettinad Crab Rasam

Amrita's kitchen: Chettinad Crab Rasam: Ingredients Crab ¼ kg Onion 1 Tomato 2 Garlic 6 pods Peppercorns ¼ tsp Fennel seeds ¼ tsp Cumin seeds ¼ tsp Turmeric powder ¼ tsp Salt and oil as required

Preparations

1.      Clean the crab pieces

2.      sauté the chopped onions in oil and grind it to paste

3.      separately  sauté the chopped tomatoes in oil and grind it to a separate paste

4.      In a pan add oil, pepper corns, fennel seeds, cumin seeds and the crab pieces.fry till it oozes out the water in it

5.      Then add the onion paste, tomato paste, crushed garlic, turmeric powder and salt. Mix well

6.      Add required water and allow it to boil

   The essence of the crab gives the rasam an excellent taste. Garnish with coriander leaves     and Serve with rice.